If youve ever seen a guy in a bar walk up to a girl he didnt know and make out with her almost immediately, it can be a completely mind-blowing experience. It may seem like its magical or out of reach a special ability or super-power that someone is born with.
But its not. And it can be broken down into a few simple steps you can follow in order to make the same thing happen for you. In this article, Im going to break down those steps.
The first step is to realize that about 90% of the difference between someone whos really good with women and someone whos not so good or mediocre with women, is the ability to spot a woman whos ready to make out.
How to Make Out With a Girl ?
I know it sounds kind of crazy at first, but its true. If you walk into a bar and go up to any woman without knowing what signs to look for, your odds of success go WAY down.
You must know how to spot that woman whos already in this make-out ready state, so you can walk up and be that guy.
Dont buy into the myth that women dont want this to happen.
Women are as sexual (if not more sexual) than guys are. Most of the time, this turbo make-out session never happens, because so many guys are afraid to go for it. And when this doesnt happen, the girls end up going home alone or worse.. staying being kind of mean to a lot of guys in the bar/being resentful and angry because no ones approaching them.
By putting this technique into practice, You want to discover how to see the women who youre able to make out with in 40 seconds or less in the first place.
There are a few excellent indicators that will (especially in a bar atmosphere) tell you if a woman is game, or ready for an instant make-out session.
What To Look For
The first indicator is a woman looking down often. When a woman looks down often, she is accessing her emotions.
Let me explain
When we look in different directions, we access different parts of our brain. These are called Eye Accessing Cues. When a woman is in a bar setting and looking down, shes accessing her emotional brain.
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If she makes eye contact with you, looks down then back up again, shes saying: I have an emotional response to you looking at me and Im looking down. And if she tilts her head down as well (and doesnt just use her eyes to look down), shes physically dropping herself a little bit lower and showing submission.
This gives you the ability to walk up and be the dominant man.
Now, if she looks at you, smiles and doesnt look away, this could be a lot more difficult situation. Socially, shes meeting you head on, and not showing immediate submission.
Women who youre going to be able to walk up to and make out with in 40 seconds or less should automatically take the submissive role as a woman. Thats one quality which shows youll be able to quickly make out with her.
Another quality is that shes actively looking around to make eye contact. This is crucial. A woman who is engaged with someone specifically and shes not looking away is not going to be as easy to seduce in 40 seconds or less. Its going to take much longer.
Again, youre going to have to play a totally different kind of game when you walk up. You cant just walk up and make out with her.
So instead, if you see a woman who is in a conversation but shes constantly looking around and trying to make eye contact with a lot of people, this is probably a very, very likely opportunity for you and thats a woman you can walk up to and immediately become sexual with.
Other traits are revealed in the way theyre moving and how theyre dressed. Lets say shes standing with her feet about shoulder-width apart. Its less likely that a woman standing like this is going to be available for you to walk up and dominate. Thats because shes standing in a dominant position, with stronger body language and shell probably be a lot more resistant.
Instead, you want to find a woman who takes up less space. She has her legs closer together and seems to be outside of a group, looking around a little bit.
Another thing is the way shes dressed. If shes dressed in a way thats super flashy and attracting lots of attention, she probably isnt the kind of girl you can walk up to and make out with in 40 seconds.
This kind of women is looking for attention not for someone to dominate them. What you want is someone whos in between I dont care and Stare at my tits, bitch! Somewhere between wearing sweatpants with an elastic waistband to the bar and done up really, really beautiful and sexy with a really low-cut shirt. You want to find someone whos in between those two extremes.
A lot of women who are on vacation fall into this realm. They dont want to over dress or under dress, and dont know how the bar atmosphere is going to be. Theyll usually come in open-minded, and start looking around trying to make connections. This is an excellent situation for you (and her, of course).
Thats what to look for and how you spot her in the first place. If you see some of those, you want to watch her for a second. If you think that she is the kind of person you can walk up to and do this, then proceed.
If not, Id actually suggest you proceed anyway, just to see what happens.
Next, right after you get that done and youve seen your girl (there are probably three or four of these girls in a bar at any given moment) youre going to walk up and start the scary part.
What To Do
This is where the most powerful kind of frame control comes in. Its very, very important that you understand how to control someone elses frame if you want to come across like youre a pro at this.
By frame, I basically mean their reality. Youre controlling what they experience. You have to be able to stay in control of that experience in order to really bring her to the level where she feels comfortable making out with you immediately.
Im going to give you a very quick, punchy, fast way of doing this. Ill explain as quick as possible; that way you can go straight out and try it
Heres what I would say, word-for-word
Walk up to a girl, when you get up to her and right when she makes eye contact with you, I want you to SLOWLY put your finger up by your lips and say this, Shhh?
Then slow your speech pattern down and deepen your vocal tonality. And immediately say, Wait just one moment.
You can also say, Stop for one minute. I suggest using a bit of NLP here. Whenever someone hears stop, wait, or dont, they immediately register whatever comes after that.
So if I say, Dont think of a black cat, what do you do? Immediately, you think of a black cat and whatever version of one you have in your head.
So if I said, Dont try to make out with me, or Dont make out with me right now, girls are going to be consciously hearing, Dont make out with me, but their subconscious minds will be hearing, Make out with me right now!
Youre attempting to sort of use real-life Inception to get making-out with you to be HER idea. She should be thinking, I should make out with this guy.
Now, during frame control youll be using a lot of these subconscious triggers in order to get this to go as fast as possible. Please only use this for good. There are lots of evil ways to use this.
Dont try to seduce women who dont want to be seduced. Again, thats one of the reasons why its important that you notice a woman who really does want to be seduced by a man.
So to recap so far: you walk up, you put your finger over your lips and you tell her to Shhh for a second and then you say a sentence that starts with dont or wait or stop.
My typical is Dont worry
right now. Thats all I say. And I slow that speech down ? Dont?worry?
. right now.
Then I go right into the next statement, which is, You and I are going to have a secret. Were going to secretly kiss and no one will know.
And as Im saying this, Im leaning in
and youll be doing the same when you do it. Youre leaning in ever
so
slowly. At the same time, youre looking from her eyes down to her lips and back up to her eyes again.
This is called Triangulating. Count to three looking at her eyes, then look down to her lips and count to two, look back up and count to three, look down and count to two
etc. Do that about three or four times as youre talking.
This can be a lot to remember, so you may want to practice it a little bit. I wouldnt expect youre going to get it perfect the first time.
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So again, you say, Were going to have a secret. Were going to kiss and no one is going to know. From here on out, youre really just filling up space with words as youre leaning in so youre still controlling the interaction.
So youre going to very, very slowly, take your right or left hand ? whichever one is more accessible ? and reach around her back. You wont pull her in toward you or anything yet, just touch her very lightly.
Signs That Its Working
Is she looking at your lips? If shes looking at your lips, you have a green light to go forward. If shes looking at your eyes, you may want to wait a second, or turn around and turn back again and try it again.
This resets the meter in her mind, so to speak. When you turn around and turn back again, most people consider this to be a fresh start in a conversation. Its a strange loop-hole in psychology.
For some reason, thats how we are as humans. When someone turns away then turns back, we give them another chance moving forward. So if youre getting some resistance, turn around, turn back, smile, and continue. If she gives you resistance again, you probably should back off and find another woman.
If shes looking at your lips and seems to be very comfortable and excited, then proceed. Youll move in very closely and speak almost directly into her ear.
!Important!
In a loud environment like a bar, youll want to speak louder, but dont raise your voice. Make your voice very low so that you have to be very, very close to her ear for her to hear.
Then youre going to keep talking
What I usually say is, No one is going to see this. Its just going to be our little secret. I promise I wont tell anybody only if you promise that you wont tell anybody either.
As Im saying this into her ear, I make sure that shes feeling my breath on her neck. So Im sort of breathing out a little bit more than normal as Im speaking so she can feel that hot air on her neck.
This usually gets a very visceral, deep, sexual response from women when you do this.
As youre speaking really close to her ear, youll, very slowly, press your cheek against hers as youre talking. Then youll move you head over so that your mouth is closer to hers, and then
youll start kissing her.
And if you do this right, you start out with just one soft peck
then go straight into making out. It may not seem like it in this description, but 40 seconds is a long time. This process can happen in a lot less than 40 seconds Ive done it in less time, and Ive seen other guys do it, too.
Practice It
What I want you to do is practice this approach. Maybe go for a minute or two at first, and then get to where you can do this in about 40 (or even 30) seconds.
You wont use this tactic all the time. But when the opportunity is right, its really good to have this in your seduction arsenal. You want to make sure that you have the right kind of tools for the job, so to speak.
Whenever you see a girl whos in that state and ready to be seduced, if you beat around the bush, engage in small talk or generally waste time, shell be turned off and youve lost a golden seduction opportunity.
Instead, when you spot this, you want to be able to see her, know that thats what she wants, go in, and give it to her immediately. This is the major difference between guys who are rock stars at walking up and seducing a woman
and guys who wish that they were great at quickly seducing a woman.
There are a lot of other success factors as well. There are techniques on how to speak with the right tonality
how to touch her that allows her to feel comfortable and doesnt turn off any of her weird alert switches
specific NLP triggers that you can use to connect and make sure shes totally in your zone.
Whats taken me from a normal dude to a well-respected dating coach, is knowing a lot of short-cuts like this and knowing when to bring them out. And these short-cuts can also improve your game with women.
Remember these characteristics in women who want to be seduced, and remember ? it is possible to make out with a woman in 40 seconds or less.
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