When To End A Relationship

If you’re wondering when to end a relationship, then you’re faced with a hard decision. After you’ve invested time with another person, it’s never easy to say goodbye. This is true if you’ve been together 3 months, 3 years, or more. But sometimes learning when to end your relationship is the best thing you can do for both of you.
If you really love the person you’re with, you might wonder when to end a relationship and why. You might think that just because you love him or her, you should stay and work things out. And very often it is worth a try.
Many people give up on their relationships before they’ve really tried to fix them. Because it’s difficult, they throw in the towel instead of working on their problems. This is unfortunate, because many people could probably be happy together if only they weren’t afraid to try.
And other people have problem after problem and keeping working hard when most people think they should just give up. It’s as if these people are gluttons for punishment. Their partner keeps cheating on them and they keep taking him back. Or their partner keeps making other mistakes and letting them down.
It seems they don’t know when to end a relationship. But usually it’s that they’re simply afraid of being alone and moving on.
There are obvious situations that should tell you when to end a relationship. If your partner is abusive, it’s time to get out, no excuses. If you don’t feel safe, even down to feeling like you’ll have something to eat and be secure, then you should move on.
Other things are less sure. If your partner has cheated, for instance, does that always mean it’s time to leave? Some people can get past one mistake like that. They sometimes end up with a stronger relationship after the affair.
But more often they really never get past the betrayal. Even if it never happens again, the one who was cheated on can’t let go of the hurt. And the one who cheated will eventually get tired of the suspicion and guilt.
If there has been cheating in your relationship, it’s not easy to decide if it should end. You should really talk about everything involved. From trust to fear of it happening again, it should all be put on the table in an honest discussion.
How about if you feel like cheating? If you have a really strong desire to be with someone else, should you end it? These types of feelings are natural. You can even have fantasies about other people. But if you’re constantly thinking that you’d be better of with someone else, maybe you really would be.
If you love your partner and you’ve tried different ways of working it out, step back. How have you really tried?  For how long? When to end a relationship isn’t always easy to see, but if you know you’ve done everything and it’s still not working, it may be time to go.
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Dating girls 5 important things to remember

New guest article: Dating girls: 5 important things to remember at HelpGettingBackTogether.com

Everyone does it. Not everyone loves it. Whether you enjoy dating or find it stressful and horrible, you know that if you are ever going to find the one person who can stop your dating life forever, you have to do it. Gentlemen, you simply have to date girls if you are ever going to find the perfect one for you. So, here is some good advice for you.

Successful dating can be broken down into the five most important things about dating girls. They are...

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The Disdance

You know when you’re walking down the street, and someone is coming towards you, right, so you kinda aim yourself to out of their direction, but they do the same thing? So now you are heading straight towards each other once again, and so you compensate by turning the other way, but this person does the exact same movement? So now you’re like doing this weird little pavement salsa where you’re both turning at a frantic rate in order to avoid crashing into each other, yet find yourself continuously getting closer and closer to colliding into one another?

I propose we start calling this “the disdance”. Because that’s a really clever play on words, not only on the stupid dancing action you accidentally find yourself partaking in, but the fact that such an event is experienced from a distance. I find it places some humour on this otherwise cringeworthy ordeal, even though I’m sure you smile and apologise politely in your oh-so British manner.

That’s all I have to say on the topic. Here’s the news:

JUICE NOTHING

There have been two fre$h articles since I last wrote one of these news bits. They were:

The 30 Greatest Music Legends Of Our Time
As essentially an upgrade on My Top 30 Rock Gawds blog I wrote 7 years ago, it felt good to finally get this one off my chest, as it revolves around a conversation I find myself having a lot lately: “who will our musical era be remembered for?” I have all the answers, of course, and so now I can just post this link without ever experiencing that fucking conversation again. I hope you read it, mainly because hardly anyone did for some reason :(

Worst to Best: Kevin Smith
I just gone and made this one! Ever since the Ghibli success, I have been consumed with the idea of Worst to Best blogs, and threw together this follow up from a potential million other candidates. I mean, Ill never claim to be the biggest Smith fan, but I do dig the guy and it was a fun simple little piece to write which didnt bleak me as much as usual. Hopefully I dont get shouted at by Reddit this time.

And with those out the way, I will be playing my regular Get Out Of Jail Free card right now, which means no article will be released during October. This grants me the well needed breathing room to prepare for the chaotic end-of-year regulars, so that should be fun. Wish me luck!

THE GOAT’S NEST

After spending the whole year researching for my next short story, I am pleased to say that work on the sequel to The Triangular Theory of Love has begun. The advantage of spending so much time planning for it, is that it’s just pouring out of me, already nearly 50% of the first rough draft done. It’s very different to anything else I’ve attempted, dangerously more “character based” to the point that I feel their personalities all up inside of me. It’s fucked up.
That said, it’s a bit premature to talk about now anyway, as this story won’t be released until well into 2015, mainly because there is a writing waiting list in place to protect me and everything must wait its turn. However, this does mean that when its time comes, it should be in really decent shape, I hope. I’m looking forward to it wholeheartedly myself.

THIS IS YOUR BRAIN ON DRUGS

Still battling to get anywhere with this. Nine of the 20 drawings are done, so something is happening, but as it stands, I am now looking at a February 2015 release or so. I’m sorry, but life got in the way. Naughty naughty life.

CODE NAME: FOX TAIL

Word of advice, kids. Do not collaborate with other people, because other people have personalities, and personalities come with emotions, and sometimes emotions get in the way of professionalism. I no longer see a future for this project, like so many before.

COMING DOWN HAPPY

Probably the biggest news this round comes from my musical adventures. I am beyond gay that my new EP, Fear of Telephones, was released recently, even if nobody gave a fuck. Because I am superstoked with it, as its the only real genuine thing in Coming Down Happy’s arsenal to date, and the first step at truly letting you know that CDH will never be anything you think it will be.
On that note, I also launched a Studio Blog for the next EP I am working on, titled Sex is Disgusting (for now?). Here, I will be letting everything out, not holding any details away from you, because I’ve never done things this way before and I like to scare myself. It’s going to be pure hip hop this round, and its already fairly far along the way...

THE FUNPOWDER PLOT

Nothing to report. I wanted to make a video for one of the aforementioned Fear of Telephones tracks, but none of them songs really scream “single”, do they? Seriously, if you’re one of the 40 people who’ve listened to it coinciding with one of the 10 people reading these words, and you have an opinion about which song would work with a video, please do tell me. I’ll pretty much make it just because you said so.


Anyways, on a more personal note, it’s been a tough month(s) for me. I’m moving house and my 30th is coming up and Im also dealing with a bunch of other stupid shit, so I wrote this news piece with the sole intention of just finishing it, which is why its really shit. But as a trained optimist, I have a good feeling that things are on the rise for me, I just need to convince the other people inside of my head first.

Go wash your dishes.
Jared


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Live An Amazing Life By Manifesting Abundance

By Anthea David

Manifesting abundance in your life is possible, no matter who you are or where you come from. Abundance comes into your life according to what you deeply are convinced you need, desire, and deserve. Most of who and what are in your life this very moment are reflections or expressions of these things, no matter if you consciously are aware of this or not.

Realizing that thoughts are powerful is a major part of manifesting abundance. The quality of your thoughts from infancy is what shapes your life. However, while an infant, the quality of your thoughts was just beginning its development. At that time your thoughts centered on your basic instincts for survival as well as taking in immensity of all the sensory input surrounding you.

Your parents then taught you what to believe and how to socialize in childhood. Upon going to school, you found that life could be harsh and uncompromising. You learned that it was foolishness to manifest abundance.

You learned that perhaps you could reach your dreams with too much over work or you needed rare genes or maybe you would just get lucky. You found that abundance might not even be possible. You found that you might die of starvation and not have a comfortable home, if you were not lucky or you were ignorant. Perhaps, you even learned that you should forget all those extraordinary dreams that are essential to you, that perhaps you would have to marry just anyone rather than your soul mate.

However, you can have abundance; you do not have to rely on luck, education or rare genes. You do not have to live a life of hard work, boredom and doing work that does not satisfy you.

You can thrive. You are allowed to thrive. You deserve to thrive.

You need to know deep down inside your soul that you deserve to manifest abundance. Particular things can make this a reality and you need to understand and embrace that.

Now, each one of us is different. So just because the cosmic laws of manifesting abundance are universal, they will find unique expression in you and in your life, the way a musician applies universal laws of playing his instrument but has his own unique style of playing and composing. This is important to keep in mind so that you dont get confused. Manifesting abundance is not about keeping up with the Joneses.

You may or may not get married when you manifest abundance in your life. You may or may not become famous or wealthy. You may just make enough money to meet your needs and live comfortably in an area of your choosing.

It matters most of all what you want in your heart. Manifesting abundance means manifesting all of your hearts desires. It means actually living your fantasies.

So. What does it take to manifest abundance? What are the cosmic laws that you must align yourself with regardless of who you are?

*Know that you deserve to be able to live your fantasies. If this is hard for you to comprehend, start taking the time to find a quiet or internally private space for yourself every day, and find a way to meditate on your deserving (there are many ways to meditate, so study that). You have been conditioned to think you arent good enough to have a charmed life, and you have to re-program yourself with new conditioning which tells you the opposite.

* You need to know why you want something. This is something that needs to be deeply ingrained in your mind. If not, you will manifest things you really will not want after you have manifested them. Remember to be careful what you ask for, because that is what you will get.

* After you know why you want it, allow your fantasy world to take the lead, while you intensely focus on the fantasies that occur.

*Take all of the action you are inspired to take to bring about your fantasy. If you feel that you must gain more technical knowledge, for instance, get on the Internet and read, watch videos, or order books that will give you the knowledge. If you feel inspired to go to a certain place or a certain website, do so; etc.

* You need to understand that the work you do towards manifesting abundance will be so inspired that it will work for you. For instance, consider the professional basketball player who works by playing his favorite sport and getting paid outrageous amounts of money just to do it.

* Allow those things that manifest in your life, as they will, never try to force them to happen. Remember that which you most desire is on its way to you at this time. You need to be ready for it as well as be patient knowing that it is coming to you.

Begin moving towards your lifetime dreams; they are waiting for you now. - 30535

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The Best Way To Save Marriage Embrace Conflict

In many states, all a husband or wife has to do to end the relationship is state to the court that there are “irreconcilable differences” and the court will grant the divorce.  But, in any marriage, there should be irreconcilable differences.  The best way to save marriage is to embrace the conflict that is inherent in a close partnership between two people.
We often think of divorcing couples as the ones who screamed at each other all of the time.  But if these couples can communicate their needs through elevated voices, they are actually doing better than the couple that avoids all conflict at the cost of expressing their needs and beliefs.
It is these silent couples who need to save marriage through embracing conflict.
While no one is suggesting that emotional and verbal abuse is a good thing for a relationship, couples who don’t acknowledge that there are problems and differences are actually more likely to split up according to Dr. John Gottman, a researcher who runs the Love Lab.
So, if you want to save a marriage, you need to learn how to communicate and express your differences.  Here are some tips for communication in marriage:
· Allow enough time for proper communication.  If you are not spending enough time together to air your differences and share your strengths, you will find your relationship is in trouble.  Work on building couple’s time back into your life.  For instance, make a point of eating dinner together several times a week or going out on a date very week.
· Really listen when your partner speaks.  It is amazing how much we tune out our partners.  He or she may be telling you what you need to know.  But, if you are not listening, it is all in vain.
· Find out why your partner is annoyed.  When your husband or wife is being particularly grumpy, find out what is really going on.  Sometimes, it may be that you have done something that has annoyed them.  Other times, it may be that something completely unrelated has occurred.  But you won’t know unless you ask.
· Get inside his or her world.  As couples begin to drift apart, they start to live in separate worlds.  When you make an attempt to get inside his or her world, you may just save the marriage.
· Stop judging.  Express what needs you have and listen to your spouse’s needs.  But, don’t be quick to judge or criticize.
· Be honest.  One of the biggest problems for people who don’t like conflict is that they can’t be honest about what they want and need.  When you start to express honest opinions about things, you will begin to save marriage.
Marriage is hard work.  But, if it is worth it to you to save marriage, you will do the work.  That means more communication, and yes, more conflict.
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I Dumped Boyfriend And Now I Want Him Back

So you were dating a guy you really liked and then one day you noticed a tiny little issue about him that you didnt really like and you dumped boyfriend! Just like that!  Out of the blue!  But have you really dug down deep to try and understand why you dumped boyfriend?
Perhaps youve told yourself that it was the way he ate his food?  Or the way he laughed or perhaps even something as earth shattering as the way that he walked?  Whatever it was that made you turn around and end up with a dumped boyfriend, boy are you regretting it now because now, you want him back.  But heres the thing he wants nothing to do with you and everything that youve tried so far to get him back, as failed.
Well, have you tried just leaving him alone for a while?  Because pretty much youve hurt his feelings big time and hes doubtless feeling humiliated.  If youve been calling him 24/7 and hes just not picking up, then thats a clear indication that he needs you to leave him alone.
So instead of bombarding him with text messages and calls, give him some space and take a look at the real hidden reasons that might have caused you to wake up one morning with a dumped boyfriend.
Truth is some girls have been known to test the relationship by ending it to see if their boyfriends will put up a fight for them and the relationship.  If this is what you did, then this is basically flawed behavior.  Not only that, ask yourself why you would even want to put someone who you clearly have feelings for through the upset of a breakup?
Usually anyone who tries to manipulate someone to this extreme, has deep rooted self-esteem issues that they should really think about working out.  Your self-esteem is really the inner you.  If you are suffering from low self-esteem then the little voice in your head often shouts negativity at you and tells you that you are just not good enough.  Take the time to address this and you will be far happier.
To win back a dumped boyfriend youre going to have to clearly work on yourself. No self-respecting boyfriend wants to be around someone who is high maintenance and doesnt know her own mind.  In future, make sure youre one hundred per cent sure about what you are doing and why you are doing it. 
Instead of dumping the guy, why not sit and talk to him about your fears and your insecurities.  He will think more of you if you are honest with him, rather than if you simply lash out on a whim and dump him for what appears to be no good reason.
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How To Stop A Divorce

Are you worried that you might not be able to find ways how to stop a divorce? If youre like most people, you would have tried everything you can think of in an effort to keep your relationship and stop it from falling apart.
Unfortunately, if youre also like most people, some of those things youve been doing to try and figure out how to stop a divorce are actually pushing your partner further away.
Here are some of the things most people do when they think they know how to stop a divorce.
1. Reassurance
Most people try hard to tell their partner that theyll change. They reassure them that if they stay in the relationship, things will be different. If youve been pleading with your partner to stay and reassuring him that everything will be better, then you could be pushing him further away.
2. Desperation
The majority of women trying to stop a divorce tell their partner over and over again I love you. They want him to see how much they care in the hope that it will make him stay. Trying to make your partner understand how much you love him and how much you need him is almost certain to make him want to pull away. After all, if you keep telling him that you cant live without him and hes the only one who can make you happy, then hes seeing that act of desperation as coming from a person who no longer has the confidence of the woman he originally fell in love with.
3. Talking
Many women spend endless hours talking, arguing, reasoning, analyzing and trying to fix a failing relationship. This tactic never works. In fact, it simply reinforces to a man that the relationship must be in serious trouble if it requires this much arguing and analyzing, so why keep trying? Nobody wants to be married to someone who constantly wants to focus on the negative aspects of everything thats going on.

While these things are almost normal instinctive behaviors for many women, they dont actually work when it comes to finding ways how to stop a divorce. What works is taking a step back and looking at your relationship a little differently. Its time to remove the emotion for just a moment and work on the dynamics of how you and your partner connected in the first place.
Think about when you first met. You would both have been happy and confident and cheerful. It was just fun to be in each others company. You would have been quite happy to accept your partner for who he was and you would have both made an effort to be sure to compromise on some things so you were both happy. Your partner would have fallen madly in love with you because you made him feel happy when you were together.
In order to find a real way how to stop a divorce, you need to figure out how to get back that happy, confident woman your husband fell in love with originally. This is not the same thing as getting a make-over. Your physical appearance isnt going to change a persons emotions. Youll need to stop focusing on the negative aspects of whats going on and work on your own inner happiness. When youre happy and confident on the inside, you suddenly become more like the person your partner loves and respects. Thats the woman he enjoys spending time with and that will also be the woman he will stop pulling away from.
When you can raise your confidence levels to that point and avoid all the usual triggers that push men away, you will have learned the easiest way of how to stop a divorce.
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